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It's been a while since this thread was opened and discussed, yet it still is a stuck "under the skin' sort of thing. Not that I personally am or have ever been in that deep, but I can relate from experience seeing things like this happen all around me ...
You've stated that it was helpful to see not being alone and you're not the only one out there experiencing the things as you do. I would go one above, and almost claim that it's far more normal these days than many would believe to be true. It's a sign of the times we are at, for good and for bad.
Without going into deep myself, others in here have been putting up very insightful things, so I'll leave you with that. However, I would like to try and address that "brick wall" and "taking baby steps" ... I've always been the sort of guy that basically says "hello" to all and everyone I meet, see or pass by. As time progressed over many years more and more people look almost surprised or even disturbed by such, but there's absolutely no harm in being friendly > More people should try ...
So what I would suggest is, I presume you still go out for shopping etc., while being out doing your routine to just say hello to all that cross your path, possibly even trying some meaningless chit-chat. Most will not care, but there's always that somebody out there that links in. Might not be instantly though, you will need to persevere that way of life without overdoing it. Repeat small interactions can grow into beautiful things.
I hear you when you say you are "content" as is, and based on your statements I'm not to concerned about your actual state of mind. Just keep it in mind, small steps might eventually enrich live as a whole :)
Keep your chin up!
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Hi everyone.
Thought I would post it here because I don't want to start a new thread talking about it. I have been diagnosed with depression recently due to a recent incident that only @Jonathan Beagles (A33) knows about but thought that I should talk about it more here.
TRIGGER WARNING
TRIGGER WARNING
In June 2022, a couple of weeks before the GPRO meeting, my mum decided to commit suicide, but ultimately failed as I miraculously stumbled into the room as it was about to happen. This led to my mental health just collapsing to the ground. GPRO was the only thing that was keeping me sane. Even with that, I felt so alone. I kept this within myself for 18 months before it finally all went to shit. My pet almost dying, to my mother trying again, to family dying. It all got too much and even though a trip to Japan was thought to have helped slightly, it didn't. I went into a bad state and thought about crashing my car and just ending it all. My life was not worth anything at this point. The amount of people I was disappointing not just in real life, but also on here was unbearable at that point.
Thankfully, I had a phone call with my best friend one night and ultimately decided to seek help. The therapy sessions managed to pinpoint what caused this and now, I am feeling a lot more free and much better. Turns out bottling your feelings does not help.
I am hoping that this post can help others who were in my position. Please seek help if you can. It definitely helps 100%. For now, it is just so good to be back to normal.
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Gutted to read that mate, really admire you for sharing it, I hope you are ok brother x
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I'm so sorry to read what you were going through Jun... hopefully things are on the up now. :(
And this is a hell of a message to everyone struggling with mental health right now. Don't keep it in yourself, and either seek professional help or even talk to some of your friends. Believe me, it will always help. Just letting it all out to people you trust helps so much, and I know, I've been there before.
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I have had people close to me, that also had the same thoughts....luckily also for them - therapy and mental help gave them the power to continu and are much better now.
Never think you are the only one with problems and never forget, there is help out there and people that care.
There is a flemish song which I "love" that tells.... you are not invisible for everyone...I want to know that you know - you're not invisible for everyone...you have friends - you have people that care
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It's kinda terrible to hear, but also good to hear.
The fact that you found help is such a great relief. It's always better to talk to someone about it. But talking is just the beginning. Realising that you are not alone is something else. It's a bumpy path, with ups and downs. But there are always people ready for you. Even some from whom you don't expect it, turn out to be the best listeners and can help you.
So don't give up. Speak with people.
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Anyone thinking they can always take on life all by themselves are missing out on the options to have a better and easier life! I know it's partly a guy-thing along the lines of "man-up" and "boys don't cry", but it's not something solely for men, it goes for women too! Anybody and everybody that comes across such a list of "blows" will be challenged tremendously. The only thing that gives room to breath, is to talk > talk with friends, family, a specialist, anybody basically! When you're down on the floor, you're already late on reaching out for help, but it's never too late to do sot! That's the manly thing to do now. No one is ever really alone, especially when you have the courage to reach out for help!
Hefty, Jun, and it's easy to see how and what brought you down. It's a mighty load to carry, and I'm so thrilled to see that you were able to find a friend or two that are/were able to help you through this. So a big thank you to JB and your local friend, they are mighty men, though they will not view themselves as such! I'm happy to see you are pulling through this, you may not be there all the way on top yet, but the worst should be tackled by now. Now all you need to do, Jun, is to trust to lean on others. I love you for sharing this and thus helping others to become more aware, it takes courage to share such a deep very personal story that at the same time is more universal than most realize! So, here's an imaginary BIG bear hug to you! Keep you chin up, work through this, there's still so many beautiful things in life still awaiting you ;)
To all others, this is a big nudge to keep a close eye on your loved ones, men and women alike. How many times do we ask the simple question "How are you doing?". And how many times the given answer will be "I'm fine"? Now the real question, how many times have you looked each other in the eye and were completely at ease with such an answer ... ? Dare to ask again!!! There are many, many people more in need of support, and everyone is able to provide such ... when you dare to dig a little! Go with your gut and dare to reach out, not only when in need, but also when (clearly) such help is needed! Some stats state that everybody will know at least 2 people within their own circle, that might be having such suïcidale thoughts ... let that sink in ...
I myself sadly missed such an opportunity when a friend tried to reach out to me among others. Back then though I was just a 16yr old teen, and didn't know diddly squat about this sort of thing. Now I can never ever forget that time. It's not haunting me, but it still doesn't sit right even almost 40yrs on ...
I dare all to help save a life by opening up the lines of communication! Start with your own inner circle, maybe even already this weekend! You would be surprised what can come up when actually wanting to really talk to someone ... and you'll be happy to have done so > Please, do reach out, always!!!
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Quote ( Jun Ho @ January 5th 2024,22:09:55 ) Hi everyone....
I am hoping that this post can help others who were in my position. Please seek help if you can. It definitely helps 100%. For now, it is just so good to be back to normal.
Stay strong and never give up... I already told you that you can do it, u'r not alone even if you feel desperate.
Come on, Jun!
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Brave of you Jun - from what you told me, I know it was an incredibly tough time for you and I'm really glad to hear that you're in a better place now. Stay strong brother - you got this :)
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Thanks for sharing, Jun. I'm sorry for the events you've had to deal with, and it's good to see you coming out of the other side stronger. I hope you continue to be strong for yourself, and that others are inspired by the things you've learned. Mad respect.
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Well done Jun for seeking the help and to work through this, rather then take the easy option.
I'm glad you have people and every comment here should hit home, no matter what, there will always be someone to talk to whether that being on the phone, internet or just in person.
Never keep yourself in the dark, speak up, message even, we're all in this together at the end of the day.
Keep brave, flip a finger to the world and rock on!
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I cant even write a word here about what you ve been pass through. But so happy to hear you recover after those and hope same to your mom. May the god give you both clear thoughts and strenght.
And probably i was one those who pushed you to submit your forum games. First I am sorry for the empathyless actions i made if there are. This gave me a good lesson for me future judgements.
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Proud to be part of a group that is supportive like this.
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Great to hear from you Jun, I have to admit I was a bit worried and in hindsight I should have just taken that gut feeling and reach out.
As for what you've been through... I don't have any words for the event itself. Such a situation is incredibly intense and to be fair it would have been a bit weird if that didn't shake you up. Honestly you are doing really well by sharing and speaking out!
You are not alone. Well I guess you can tell by the replies
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Jun, I have deep admiration for having written your message. You have all my support and that of many friends you have at Gpro.
With your words, now I can understand everything better and also make me think about how easy it is to speak or judge about others without having the slightest idea of the circumstances that person may actually be going through.
Cheer up and stay in touch with all of us.
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Get well soon, may God grant you recovery.
I am pleased that you are well.
It's good that your mother is good too
Take care Jun Ho
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Thanks for sharing Jun 👍 I wish you well
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Stay strong my friend. This too shall pass and you will move beyond these circumstances.
In the far past I've had similar thoughts. My son tried 4 years ago he's 45. My neighbor's 32 year old son took his own life last fall. For christmas... my 34 year old daughter just told me she thinks that way... every morning! :(
Many people have problems with life. Many don't receive or seek help. "Talking out" what is truly happening inside you. helps to put things in perspective.
Wish you a healthy and prosperous life. Be kind to yourself.
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I hope to hear from you Jun! I am glad you were able to reach out, and that the therapy seems to work. Keep it up until you fully recover!
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Keep fighting good fella, your team and this community support you!
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